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Self-Care: Menopause Edition

Self-care is an important practice especially for women going through midlife. As I’ve mentioned in the past, it’s important to fill your own cup so you can give more, love more, serve more and shine more brightly than ever. As we grow older and experience more, we become tired and often less motivated than we used to be. As we get older we also experience menopause with its not so pleasant symptoms. There are so many ways we can combat the side effects of menopause so we feel a little better inside and out.

One way to help yourself through this difficult time is to clean your thoughts, otherwise known as mind hygiene. The more you de-stress, the more your hot flashes will lessen; a good night’s sleep and exercise are some ways to relieve stress.

Chinese healers have long believed in the power of flowers and their colors. The color purple is known for its power to soothe the nervous system and mental functions. The color purple can help keep you calm in this new phase of life.  Fresh flowers like Lilacs, Vervain, and Bellflowers all give off a beautiful purple hue. Set them on your kitchen table or office and you’re bound to feel a little more at ease.

Make sure to also pay attention to what you eat on a daily basis. Things like caffeine, alcohol, and spicy foods can all contribute to increasing menopause symptoms. Try keeping a food journal with you throughout the day (even if it’s on your phone). Keep track of what you eat that may be affecting you negatively.

Even cutting down to 1 or 2 caffeine drinks a week can make a big difference over time. Research has shown that the following are trigger foods for hot flashes and other menopausal symptoms

  1. Spicy Food
  2. Caffeine
  3. Alcohol
  4. Sugar
  5. Smoking

Physical exercise is another way women can stay on top of their general health when experiencing menopause. Whether it’s taking daily walks around the block, going for a jog, or even doing some time on the treadmill in your basement, any type of movement helps.

Not to mention, when you workout, your body releases endorphins that spark an overall positive feeling in your body. Strength training exercises will help to build bone and muscle strength, burn body fat, and rev up your metabolism. Wake up in the morning and get your blood pumping. Maybe you’ll feel motivated to accomplish more throughout the day.

Menopause is a natural occurrence among 40-50-year-old women and a blessing. It can sometimes feel like it’s taking over your life but you have the choice to take control of it by indulging in some of the activities mentioned above as well as keeping a journal on your symptoms and see how it’s affected the various aspects of your lifestyle.

If you wish to know more insights about menopause, we have a lot of that on KwaviTV. Visit our channel if you haven’t done so yet. It is a lifestyle channel dedicated to wellness for women through the various twists and turns of life like motherhood, midlife, and menopause. Click here and join me there and don’t forget to subscribe.

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  1. Customwriting

    The menopause is as much a conundrum for men as women. My first wife was brought up in a tightly regulated Methodist regime, the sort of thing would be labelled child abuse in these more liberal days. She was taught that all and any of her bodily functions were private and not to be discussed even with her husband. Similarly, however curious I might have been there were no answers and no forewarning of what effect the menopause could have on her when it hit in her early forties. Already a depressive her menopause hit rapidly and with ferocious effects, none of which I understood or attributed to that mystical word menopause. Living with a severe depressive is almost impossible when a living must be made. Living with a menopausal severe depressive is utterly impossible without understanding of what is happening to her. The Sixties were a fantastic time to have one”s teenage years. Yet, with hindsight, a little more openness between the sexes would have made my subsequent life much more possible. My second wife had an easy time. At the beginning she talked me through it, explained what could happen and how I should deal with it. The few menopausal effects she did have were easily managed because she had been open with me.

    • Kwavi Agbeyegbe

      Thank you so much for your sincere post about your experiences as well as that of your first and second wife. Yes we do have to share this with our partners. It can be as hard on them as it on us if we don’t share what we are going through. Unfortunately some women don’t even know what is going on. To be honest when I experienced my first symptom I didn’t know it was because of menopause. One of my goals is to educate women because the symptoms can creep up on you without you being aware anything is different and sometimes it comes with now warning as a big bang.

      I’ve always believed one of the ways to combat the symptoms is by accepting that you will experience it if you live long enough and to be open about it. Thank you so much once again for your insightful post from the male perspective.

  2. Sherifa Musah

    Thank u so much for your post thoroughly benefited from the post. My own is always sweats alot. Pls want to read more from you. Also when I wake up from bed in the morning my legs are always paining me. Thank you

    • Kwavi Agbeyegbe

      Yes I will be posting more on menopause. Please record your symptoms and notice if you notice a difference with the different food that you eat.

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