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The Downside of Living a Healthy Lifestyle

Today, I’m going to be talking about the downside of living a healthy lifestyle. Yes, unfortunately there is a downside.

I speak with a lot of women about losing weight and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Sometimes there are some thoughts and feelings that creep up that derail their efforts. This does not happen to everyone and only a few people have talked about it but I felt that it would be great for me to share  this with others because there might be some other people going through the same thing.


A lot of women feel that when they are trying to lose weight or trying to maintain it, they encounter thoughts within themselves that sometimes make them feel that they are not enough. In other words, if they have a goal to reach and haven’t gotten there yet they feel “Oh my goodness, I’m not there yet!”. So, nothing else matters and even if you compliment them or say something that is complimentary they disregard it because they are not where they need to be. Forgetting that they have done well to get to where they are.

This sometimes results to them being unkind to themselves. “This is not working.”, “It’s taking so slow”, “I don’t like my body” are some of the statements they tell themselves.  They look in the mirror and they can’t even appreciate who they are or where they are right now because as far as they are concerned they have to get to that goal first.

They end up being too hard on themselves, because they don’t see it happening quickly enough. The guilt or being unkind to yourself never stops. Quite frankly there is no upside of being unkind to yourself. There is none whatsoever.

However, I do believe that a lot of these thoughts stem from the diet mentality where you have to eat certain types of food and maybe certain food groups. You are told to eat one food group or you have to abstain from this or that. Deprivation or starvation is not the way to live a healthy lifestyle. It does not work.

Living a healthy lifestyle involves eating different types of food. When you restrict yourself, you are able to do it for a little while and then you get the urge. The urge comes upon you with a strong force and you know how it is when you get that urge, you end up eating more than you were supposed to. Sometimes you feel so guilty that you don’t even want to continue trying to do what it takes to live a healthy lifestyle and you end up just saying “You know what, it does not matter. I ruined it.” Ruined what? You feel like you ruined your body, you ruined the program. You haven’t ruined anything. But a lot of women feel that way and they just stop and go back to their old eating habits.

So I want to share with you today these two words if applied in all these different things I’m going to suggest will help you along that journey and help you reframe your thoughts about yourself.

Drop the guilt. Be kind to yourself. Don’t worry. You did something? Okay! You missed your workout? Alright, so what? It’s not the end of the world. Really, you can get up from that. Tomorrow is another day or you can workout in the evening but please don’t feel that that’s the end. No. This is for you. This is for your own benefit.

Fuel Foods and Joy FoodsAs long as you combine fuel foods and joy foods, you will be able to provide your body with what it needs. Fuel foods are foods that provide nourishment and joy foods are those foods that we enjoy and love. They could be cupcakes and things like that. As long as you have about 80% of fuel foods and 20% or eventually even 10% of joy food, you are well on your way to living a healthy lifestyle. No deprivation or starvation allowed.

Exercise is a gift. When you exercise, look at it as a gift that you’re giving to your body. Don’t look at it as a chore or some kind of punishment.

Gratitude. Be grateful for your body. Your body has carried you to where you are right now. Be grateful. Show gratitude for your body.

Become a better version of yourself.  The goal should be to become better. You are great the way you are.  Remember there’s nothing’s wrong with you right now. You just want to become better. Better could be in terms of “you want to become stronger”, “you want to become fitter”, “you want to become more empowered”.  However as you employ these suggestions, please remember to be kind to yourself.



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